The worst place you can ever be in is when you have a huge crush on someone and then suddenly they start pulling away from you. This is usually a difficult position because you are left between a rock and a hard place – a total dilemma. You do not known whether to move on or stay. Was it something you said? Was it something you did? Is it because you did not text him back on time?….. The questions are endless – and it is normal for you to ask yourself these questions but honey, sometimes it’s REALLY not you it’s him. What do you do when he starts pulling away from you? Here are the top 5 tips on how to ignore him when he pulls away so you don’t mess it up.
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Pull back but not completely
How do you know that he is pulling away from you? The most obvious signs of this include the following; when he stops calling you as frequently as he used to, when he takes his time before replying your texts and when he generally seems less interested in you than before. When this happens, it is natural for you to start blaming yourself and start feeling like you played in making him act like that. As a result, you might feel obliged to go the extra mile to try and impressive or reel him in.
Sometimes, the best thing for you to do is to also pull back a little. Give him less attention but still drop him some hints that you are still available. Make him see that he could lose you anytime if he takes too long to get his act together.
Give him time
When a guy pulls away, sometimes he is just trying to communicate to you that he needs a little space. Therefore, if you keep pushing on and trying to force yourself on him, he might actually pull back completely even if his initial plan was to take a little break from you. What most women fail to understand, is that some men are not good at communicating how they feel. If they are feeling too much pressured to make a move, they might decide to pull away.
Sometimes, they might just pull away a little when they feel like you are taking things too fast. In other cases, they might pull away so that they can have time to figure out where they want the relationship to go. Therefore, if you see him pulling away, do not hit him with the “what are we?” bombshell. Moreover, DO NOT give him an ultimatum. If he is asking for space, then give him space. Do not succumb to your fear of losing him because you might end up suffocating him with your presence.
Make him miss you
One of the best ways for you to reel him in once he starts pulling away is to seduce him. This does not mean that you unleash your full Kardashian on him. It just means that you should drop him some hints that you are still interested in him – but don’t make a move. Make sure that every time he sees you you’re looking prettier than ever. Moreover, dress up in that dress that he likes and then do not give him your full attention. If in a public place, just drop by, say hi to him, give him a flirty smile and then walk away.
In other words, make him more interested in you without looking like you are trying too hard. If you want to ignore him when he pulls away without messing it up, then this is one of the best ways to do it.
Give him a really good time then pull away
The best way to ignore him when he pulls away so you don’t mess it up is to remind him what he’s missing out on. Invite him for dinner or coffee (it’s the 21st Century; ladies do it all the time). Take him out to a place you know he would love to go. Make sure that you engage in lots of fun activities. In fact, make the day all about him. Then once the day is done and you go back home, pull away!
Give him a taste of his own medicine (but don’t overdo it). Do not call him or text him. Do not even try to contact him at all. Wait for him to make the next move. However, if he does not take the cue, you can try to re-engage him but still don’t try too hard. If he doesn’t come running back to you after doing all this, then maybe he’s just not that into you or he’s just dumb.
Do not chase him
One of the main reasons why a guy pulls away, in the first place, is the fact that you are always all over him. If you are the type of girl who is already planning your wedding in your head on the second date, then you are bound to scare him away. It does not mean that this is the only reason why men tend to pull away from ladies they like, but it could be.
If you notice that he has started pulling away from you, just play it cool. DO NOT chase him. Just be yourself. You don’t need to pull away 100% and be cold but you need to let him do most of the initiation until the power is balanced again. This will ensure that he doesn’t take you for granted or take advantage of you. It is the wrong time for you to start running around chasing him as this will make him run away from you.
Final Words on how to ignore him when he pulls away so you don’t mess it up
It is natural for men to pull away, and sometimes the best option available to you is to ignore him. However, it’s not always about totally pulling away from him, this is a move that requires you to be very strategic so as to avoid pushing him away further. Therefore, if he pulls away, here is a checklist for you to follow:
- Do not try to text him every second even when he is not replying
- Do not act too desperate and throw yourself on him
- Understand that sometimes it’s REALLY not you, it’s him.